'Movember' - it's more than just growing a moustache

WE ARE well into November, or ‘Movember’, which for those of you who don’t know, is the annual opportunity to shine a light on men’s health and, more specifically, mental health.

This global movement began in 2003 when two friends in Australia decided to grow moustaches to raise awareness and funds for men’s health issues like prostate cancer, testicular cancer, and suicide prevention.

Since then, Movember has grown significantly, with participants across the globe using the moustache as a visible symbol of support for men’s health, including of course, mental health.

The reluctance of men to discuss their mental health is a complex issue. Traditionally, men have been conditioned to embody a strong, self-reliant image, suppressing their emotions and avoiding vulnerability. This ‘strong and silent’ archetype can lead men to bottle up their feelings, fearing judgment or ridicule if they express their struggles. They may not want to be perceived as weak by their partners, friends, family or colleagues. Add to that, the fact that mental health in general is still greatly stigmatised, particularly for men.

Seeking help for mental health issues can be perceived as a sign of failure, reinforcing the notion that men should be able to handle their problems independently. Expressions such as ‘man-up’ or ‘grow a pair’ are not helpful. They just add to the stigma, which can deter men from reaching out for support, even when they are really struggling.

Reported cases of men with depression are lower than they are for women. Yet, for every female suicide there are three males who take their own life. The suicide rate in the UK increased again in 2023. Given the above, it is safe to say that men do not talk enough about their thoughts or feelings. Many don’t even know where to start, this can add to feelings of isolation and overwhelm.

To break down these barriers, we need to challenge traditional masculine norms and encourage open conversations about mental health. Of course, this is easier said than done, but great strides have been made in recent years, with organisations like Andy’s Man Club, who offer safe spaces for men to talk openly about their feelings and connect with others who understand their experiences. They have meetings throughout the area, on a Monday evening.

You can find out details of your nearest one from their website www.andysmanclub.co.uk or find them on Facebook. If you’d like to talk to somebody in confidence then call CALM (The campaign against living miserably) on 0800 585858 they are open every evening from 5pm to midnight.

Martin Furber is a therapist. Contact: wellbeing@martinfurber.com

If you feel you are in a mental health crisis contact your GP, go to A&E, call NHS 111 (option2), the Samaritans on 116 123 or text SHOUT to 85258