Sitting writing this piece on a miserable, chilly and wet October morning,
it is easy to think back to the warm days of summer. In actual fact, they
are not all that long ago, even though the raindrops rolling down the window
beside me make it feel like they were.
But if I really think about it, and really remember the summer just gone,
was it as good as my mind is telling me it was? Sweltering in the car whilst
making those essential journeys, enduring uncomfortable heat whilst trying
to work, and spending many a restless night just trying to get cool enough
to sleep peacefully.
How many times do we hear of the break-up of a disastrous relationship, and
then within weeks or months, one or both parties is keen to rekindle the
partnership, and often, they do. And when they do, it is usually the case
that 'situation normal' resumes after a short period and another dinner
service is placed, fragment by fragment, into the nearest pedal bin.
The latest national crime survey shows crime overall to be down, but no-one
can believe it. Surely things are worse now than they have ever been? Or are
they?
And what about the 'good old days'? Everyone has them, whether it was during
the war, after the war, the '60s, the '70s, your teenage years or whenever.
What was it about them that made them so great? Then, consider the other
things that were happening at the same time. They may not be so memorable,
and certainly won't spring so easily to mind when thinking about the
whatever period was your 'finest hour'. But it was all there and was all
still happening, possibly to a greater degree than the 'good stuff'.
Why is it that as humans, we blank out the bits that are not so appealing
about the past? If you approach a blackbird sitting on your bird table, it
does not remain there in the cosy warmth of knowing that it has not been
attacked by 99.9% of other living things. It remembers vividly the 0.1% who
have tried to, and acts accordingly. The same applies for the rest of the
animal world, generally, perhaps excluding goldfish who many argue can't
remember anything. Mine, however, clearly remembers what is going to happen
when I approach with net in hand, and responds accordingly, usually for
about the next five minutes and much to my frustration!
Perhaps only when the human race uses evolution to adopt this holistic use
of memory, will we be able to effectively use the past to shape the future.
This is as equally relevant to us in our private lives as it is with
national or international issues, both long and short term.
The next time you are reminiscing over the 'good times', just have a closer
look and see if the grass was really greener, particularly if you are using
those memories on which to pave your future!
Updated: 12:23 Tuesday, October 25, 2005
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