Q My dad left a year ago and now lives with his girlfriend. When I go to stay with them my mum constantly wants to know what they are up to and what his girlfriend is like. I am finding this more and more difficult, what should I do?

A This is a very common occurrence when parents separate. It is a difficult situation to deal with and I am not surprised you are struggling with this. It is very important for you to understand that you are not responsible for your parents' relationship. You may still be coming to terms with their relationship breakdown and your own change in circumstances.

I would suggest that you talk to your Mum and tell her how difficult this is for you. Communicate with her about this matter, not with your dad as this could make matters worse.

Tell her how awkward you feel about this situation and ask her not to do it anymore. I hope this helps.

Updated: 09:14 Monday, June 17, 2002