Q I think my husband has a drink problem - every night he drinks at home, falls asleep and wakes everyone up when he comes to bed. I've tried talking to him about how I feel, and all he says is that he works hard all day, and for me to stop nagging him. It's become so bad that if he continues I will leave him when our daughter goes to university in three years time. I love him, but I've had enough of his drinking.

A How long your husband has been drinking? Does he use alcohol to cope with pressures at work, or are there issues between the two of you that are not being addresse?. He needs to acknowledge he has a problem.

Someone with a drink problem can always come up with an excuse to justify their actions. It sounds as though your complaining is not working and there is the real possibility that your actions could be used as a further excuse to continue drinking.

You say you love your husband so now is the time to let him know exactly how his drinking is affecting you, and that you will leave him when your daughter leaves home if he does not take action now to do something about it.

Your husband has a choice, get help now or risk losing your love and the support you are offering him, and perhaps the chance to rework your relationship.

You may want to contact AL Anon, an organisation for alcoholic's partners and families. The helpline number is 020 7403 0888.